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Wedding traditions
The traditional wedding customs of the Tatars exhibit a striking variability across regions, reflecting social, legal, and religious norms. Despite this diversity, there are common structural elements in Tatar wedding rituals, making them a distinct part of their ethnic culture.
The traditional Tatar wedding rituals involved various pre-wedding ceremonies, such as yawuçı cibərü / dimləw / yərəşü (matchmaking), the preparation of birnə (dowry) and qalın (bride-dowry), and engagement celebrations. These customs were an integral part of Tatar wedding culture in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.
The period between engagement and the wedding was marked by gatherings, feasts, and rituals such as aqlaşu (meetings between the two families) and qız kürənderü. Çebeldek tegü or qızlar aşı is a kind of a bachelorette party, where bride’s friends and female relatives gathered at her place, presented her with coins and gifts, shared traditional wedding dishes, and held an evening tea ceremony. The bachelor gathering, known as sölge qağu or yegetlər cıyını, took place at the groom’s house and involved communal eating and drinking. The groom, in turn, gave small gifts to the guests in exchange for monetary contributions.
The main wedding ceremony, known as tuy or nikax tuy, took place at the bride's home, with the groom's parents (töp qodalar) bringing gifts and treats, – a couple of geese, küməç, qatlama, çəkçək, often carried in a chest called küçtənəç sandığı.
Among Kazan Tatars, the wedding began with the religious marriage ritual (nikax or kəben), officiated by a mullah. Marriage conditions including the bride-dowry, gifts, tartu (the groom’s financial contribution to the wedding), and the sum the husband was obliged to pay in the event of initiating a divorce were recorded in the məhər (marriage registry). The dowry included clothing, footwear, and various items for the bride, as well as livestock. The wedding feast followed, featuring a specific order of serving traditional dishes, starting with honey and butter (accompanied by the ritual collection of money for the bride), then toqmaçlı aş, bəleş, and the ceremonial sweet treat çəkçək or bawırsaq.
In Mişər and Kerəşen weddings, the same dishes were often served in reverse order and accompanied by the singing of special wedding songs. Unlike Kazan Tatars, who usually celebrated separately by gender, other Tatar groups did not strictly observe this division. Wedding celebrations typically lasted several days and included numerous rituals, gift exchanges, and farewell feasts featuring pilmən (dumplings) or botqa (porridge).