I saw a text between my husband and the lady he dated and broke up with two years before meeting me. We've been married six years and I thought I was doing my best as a wife, only to see him texting this old ex of his saying, "sexx is very important in a man's life, I wish I married you instead".
Apparently, their whole conversation was about sezz. How he enjoyed it with her and wished I was like her. He was trying to get the lady to sleep with him again but the lady kept giving him excuses so he had to tell her how bad I was in bed.
I didn't fight him. I didn't even tell him I had seen their messages. I just changed. I just started giving him more sezz. I initiated it most times, I did the riding and winding he said made him happy, the head, the styles - I did them all. He was excited, he complimented me.
But he started to complain, cuz there wasn't food at home like it used to. He doesn't eat out, six years in marriage I wake up everyday to fix him breakfast and lunch to take to work, but this time around, that didn't happen cuz I spent the night riding him and wanted more sleep. I stopped stressing, I only did things when I feel I had time. most times, I would rather go and initiate sezz. We shared responsibility with the kids. I couldn't do everything just like that.
He started complaining, especially doing things for the kids. Sometimes he would say he was tired and didn't want to have sezz. I would insist we do it. He would want food and I'll rather order something for us.
He lost it. He wanted soup, something made from home and my excuse remained the same, "I'm tired, let's order something and go and have sezz instead". It pains him. He obviously didn't like that expression, that I wanted to give him sezz instead of cooking.
One dawn he woke me and asked, "did you see something on my phone?"
Me: No, why do you ask?
Him: smiled and said, I know you did, I can tell you're lying.
Then he started to apologize. He didn't mean anything he said to her, he was just weak at that moment etc, etc. I listened and forgave him.
But I told him, I liked it that we had more sezz cuz it took off the burden of running up and down the house, cooking, packaging food, and taking care of the kids alongside work. He realised how I was stressing. He still apologized and has since been helping and now he eats out sometimes. I've also made adjustments in the bathroom. We both learnt the hard way. Somehow, I'm glad the ex never gave in to his advances, I respect you -
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