AITAH for not donating to my coworker's fire fundraiser and getting shunned by the whole team?
A coworker's house caught fire last month. Half the house damaged, but everyone's safe. HR sent a fundraiser link, calling it "voluntary donations."
I clicked the link and checked — insurance covers it, just slow processing. Also, he drives a BMW. His wife carries a Louis Vuitton. So I didn't donate.
Then things got weird. Coworkers posted in the group chat saying "donated!" with screenshots. I stayed quiet. Someone DM'd me asking how much I gave. I said nothing. Next day, the vibe shifted. People went quiet when I entered the break room. No one asked me to lunch. Passive-aggressive posts about "selfish people" started appearing.
I talked to HR. They said it's voluntary and they won't get involved. But the damage is done. I get that people want to be supportive. But why am I the bad guy for not handing over money I don't owe anyone? AITAH?
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