🔧🍴 Utensils and Tools as Mirrors of Relationship
I’ve noticed something about myself and the people around me.
At first, I was the 🍴 fork—poking, testing.
Then I was trained to be the 🥄 spoon—feeding, nurturing, even when I was empty.
Eventually, I grew tired of being fork and spoon, so I chose to become the 🔪 knife—sharp, cutting—ready to face my surroundings.
Looking back, I see: I was living among knives without knowing I was the spoon, which is why I kept experiencing pain. After I had enough, I became the knife 🙈🫣myself. Now I choose when to be spoon, when to be knife. But everyone around me kept wanting me to be the fork😮💨—because that’s what they chose to be toward me. I’ve only seen 👀 and met with wrenche, hammer, scissors, screwdriver, knife and fork, never spoon, except toward those they choose to be spoon with. 😂
And it doesn’t stop at utensils. Some people are like 🔨 hammers, always pounding. Some are ✂️ scissors, cutting things apart. Some are 🔧 wrenches or 🪛 screwdrivers, always trying to fix me.
🛠 Functions of Each Tool (and Relationship Archetype)
🔪 Knife: Cuts, sharp words, clarity or harm. Can wound or reveal truth.
🥄 Spoon: Feeds, nurtures, comforts. Can nourish or suffocate if boundaries are ignored.
🍴 Fork: Pokes, tests, irritates. Can help pick things apart or leave small wounds.
🔨 Hammer: Pounds, forces, dominates. Can build or break depending on how it’s used.
🔧 Wrench: Twists, tightens, adjusts. Can repair or control, depending on intent.
🪛 Screwdriver: Fixes, turns, directs. Can help align or make us feel “worked on.”
✂️ Scissors: Cuts, separates, divides. Can free us or sever connection.
🌱 Reflection
🧐If you were a utensil or tool in your relationships, which one would you be?
🧐How do you notice when someone is feeding, cutting, pounding, fixing, or poking you?
🧐What role do you choose for yourself, and how do you protect that choice when others try to assign you a different role?
Forwarded fromAnn Love Divine 🇹🇭
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