Why I wouldn’t agree with your claims that exam was unfair! If by ‘Unfair’, you mean emotionally painful.. because a single paper impacting years of effort.. it’s brutal, emotionally unfair. No arguments there. But if by ‘Unfair’, you mean it’s impossible to crack.. I think we need to look deeper. Because many clear it consistently, so it’s definitely not impossible. I think it means for you: - that your preparation didn’t match what came - that you were shocked - that you lost control - that you feel you don’t know what works now! We will address that separately. But realise that why it felt unfair. Generally high-stake situations rarely feel fair: investing in stocks, setting up business, working in corporate, being an artist : and mind you, they take as much effort. But the more important question is: is this a game whose rules can be understood and adapted to? If yes, then the response is strategy - not helplessness. A secret belief in many students is: If the exam were fair, hard work should guarantee success. That belief is dangerous. Because competition doesn’t work that way. Hard work gives probability. Not entitlement. That sounds harsh, but it true. Because now the question becomes ‘How do I improve my odds? How do I suck less at the game with each passing day?’ instead of ‘Why didn’t the universe reward me?’ If after enough reflection, you genuinely feel the process aligns with your temperament, values or risk and cost tolerance, stepping away is a valid decision. That’s not weakness, that’s strategic action in life. Some people thrive in uncertainty, some don’t. Fairness is not the question that helps you most. Agency is. Because: “Is this fair?” often creates helplessness. “What can I control now?” creates movement. I understand and validate your pain but not victimhood.
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