IF YOU EVER NEED TO HIT SOME SENSE INTO YOUR PARTNER BUT THEY WON'T… — HeartKrafters — TG.ME

IF YOU EVER NEED TO HIT SOME SENSE INTO YOUR PARTNER BUT THEY WON'T LISTEN... 3 ridiculously easy ways to argue with a partner who won't listen: Tip 1: Make one point one time When you start arguing, make one point. The most important point. If you're not sure which point to focus on, just stick with the original complaint mode. When you make your point, and only one point, don't go on and on about it. Remember, the more you push a stubborn person the more they push back. They become even more resistant and more reluctant to change. When that person gets defensive, you know they will, make your point one more time. Try saying it in a different tone, in a nicer way, in a clearer way. Then they'll get defensive again. What should you do then? Tip 2: Shut up and do nothing You move on. Life is too short to make the same point over and over again. The more you push a stubborn person, the more they push back. You accepting their refusal and moving on is healthier for both parties. You stop stressing yourself out by making the same point repeatedly for the rest of your life. The stubborn husband, boyfriend or whoever else gets to keep being stubborn. Isn't that a bad thing? It could be, but sometimes stubborn people need to feel uncomfortable. It pushes them to change. One day, they'll get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Then they'll make the necessary changes. Until then, arguing is a waste of time. What can you do then? Tip 3: Create a new environment By now, you know what stubborn people fear most? That's right. Change. it scares the pants off them. Naturally, they just avoid their greatest fear. They get set in their ways, which makes everyone else mad. You want to help them change. Instead, you do the opposite. You help them stay the same by making them comfortable (staying stubborn/not listening!). Comfortable people don't change. Uncomfortable people do. By showing up in a new way, you can take that stubborn person out of their comfort zone. When you make some changes, you'll unsettle them. That's a good thing! If you're arguing in the kitchen, go to the bathroom. Sit on the toilet. Simple changes like moving to a new environment is an easy way to cut an argument short. A new area refreshes the mind and helps you to cool off and think about what the other person has said. Why not try something different? An easy way to stop arguing with a stubborn person is to change things up. Wear new clothes. Get fit and healthy. Cut your hair. Go for a promotion. Get a new job. Just do something to show that stubborn person you won't stay the same. Someone who thinks they are always right can't handle being wrong. Making positive changes proves them wrong. Positive changes make things better. Staying the same makes things worse. Heartkrafters, if repeated arguments and dealing with a difficult partner have caused resentment to build up in your relationship, it's time to do something different about it. :)