📚📘📗📕📒📚 ebooks list 📖 Finding your Rhythm and River in Prayer: Breaking Free in Prayer 🖊 Binaan Yalmi 📘 Reading Between the Lines 🖊 Daniel L. Segraves 📖 Ecstasy: Finding joy in living 🖊️ Lester sumrall 📖 Faith Beyond Reason: With God Nothing Is Impossible 🖊 A.W. Tozer 📖 BIBLICAL MUSIC IN A CONTEMPORARY WORLD 🖊 Ken Lynch 📖 Your essence is in your difference 🖊 Gospel Orji Quotes of the day The Four Stages of Parenting by Sandra and Andy Stanley: The Discipline Years (0–5 years old) The Training Years (5–12 years old) The Coaching Years (12–18 years old) The Friendship Years (18+ years old) In the discipline years, you teach your child there are consequences— good and bad—to their actions. The discipline years is the season when our kids should learn—for their safety, for their good, for their future happiness—that there are consequences (good and bad) for their actions. In the training years, you explain the why behind rules and expectations. These are the years when we explain the why behind the what. You train while you explain. You tell your child what to do. You explain why it’s important. Then you help them practice and turn those things into habits. Train simply means to practice until it becomes a habit. In this season, parents are helping their kids gain the skills and values they need to succeed. In the coaching years, you connect more than correct. You loosen the tight reins of the training years and move to the sidelines for coaching. Coaches don’t leave the field, and they don’t get distracted with other stuff. They watch carefully, call some plays, and pull their players off the field from time to time. They encourage their players to run the plays and respond to situations according to the training that came before. Your goal during this stage is simply to keep them coming to you for guidance and support. The coaching years are the ones when you stand on the sidelines while they make independent decisions. They’re in the game, and you cheer them on. You give some instructions and suggestions, but you hang back, letting them gain personal momentum. The coaching season is the season when you do more connecting than correcting. Here are three phrases that wrap some understanding around connecting over correcting: 1. Cultivate constant conversations. 2. Don’t bail; let ’em fail. 3. Get interested in what interests them. The coaching years amplifies the importance of constant conversations. This isn’t the same as talking your kids to death or constantly telling them stuff. It’s about actual conversations, ones where your kids get to tell you what they think. It’s about cultivating an environment where they feel safe to talk to you. Sometimes cultivating a conversational environment means simply keeping your mouth shut and listening or asking relevant questions that show interest. But be trustworthy with the treasures they bestow upon you. The goal of discipline is to teach your child how to restore the relationship they damaged. The goal of discipline: relationship restoration. ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley We should discipline with the goal of teaching our children the critical life skill of making things right with the people they’ve wronged. ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley Effective discipline requires two things from your child—confession (apology) and restitution. ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley Require your children to apologize in complete sentences. A good apology always includes a pronoun. “I’m sorry.” Then they should name their offense with a verb. “I’m sorry I lied to you.” ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley Your children should apologize to everyone affected by their actions. That means you, their siblings, their teachers, their friends, even their friends’ parents. ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley Once an apology has been made, it’s time for restitution. Teach your child to follow every apology with, “Is there anything I can do to make it up to you?” Restitution is the process of making up the honor they owe the other person. ~Andy Stanley, Sandra Stanley
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