Someone asked me a question in my DMs which was “how to have standards but be not judgmental”
Judgment is proactively pushing our standard onto others because of a need to be believed / gain control.
Guy with standards would just let his attention drift elsewhere, no need to hurt feelings/ push his view.
What guys who are judgmental don’t realize is that, in addition to breaking the vibe, every judgment they pass is a compliance test. They’re begging to be agreed with. They’ll keep doing it and then be confused the group ignores/defies them but they trained them to.
May 26, 2026 498 1 3
