Very astute and observant people know that what a person insults you with is often nothing more than the label they can’t acknowledge they actually give themselves.
If you realize this, you can keep your cool in such a conversation.
If not, you may get hooked into a mutual ego-defense session—i.e., an argument—with the person, unknowingly accepting their invitation to play a particular shadow game with them.
People work harder to avoid pain than to get pleasure.
While everyone wants pleasure as much as they can get it, their motivation to avoid pain is actually far stronger.
So when faced with the prospect of pain, the brain will work harder than it would to gain access to pleasure.
Book: Read People Like a Book by Patrick King
